Let’s be real.
Have you ever seen someone with a disability , maybe at work, in your
neighbourhood, or at an event , and wanted to say hello, but didn’t?
You’re not alone.
Many people hesitate. They freeze. They walk away. Not out of disrespect, but
because of uncertainty.
Inclusion doesn’t begin with a policy. It begins with us , and with the small,
often unnoticed thoughts that shape our actions.
Here are 10 honest reasons people avoid interacting with persons with
disabilities , and what we can all do to change that.
1.
I want to be respectful, but I might
mess up and offend them. Better to say nothing than say the wrong thing.
What you can do:
·
Start with a simple hello.
Warmth matters more than perfection.
·
If unsure, ask politely: “Is it
okay if I ask you something about accessibility?”
·
Let go of perfection.
Connection beats correctness.
2.
Honestly, I’ve never spoken to someone
with a disability before. I don’t know what to say or how to act. I’d rather
avoid the situation than risk looking awkward.
What you can do:
·
Begin like any other
conversation: “How’s your day going?”
·
Ask about their work, hobbies,
or thoughts , not their disability.
·
The more you interact, the more
natural it becomes.
3.
I’m not sure they can really do the
same things we do. I don’t want to include them and then have them struggle ,
it might just be uncomfortable for everyone.
What you can do:
·
Never assume. Ask: “Would you
like to be part of this?”
·
Let them tell you what works
best , trust their agency.
4.
I feel so bad for them. It makes me
sad just thinking about what they must go through. I wouldn’t even know how to
have a normal conversation , I might just feel too sorry for them.
What you can do:
·
Ditch pity. Choose respect and
equality.
·
Avoid phrases like “you’re so
brave.” Instead, ask, “What’s something you enjoy doing?”
·
Most persons with disabilities
aren’t looking for sympathy , they want equity.
5.
I grew up seeing people with
disabilities being separated or kept out of the spotlight. It just feels
unnatural to start interacting now , like I’m crossing some unspoken line.
What you can do:
·
Challenge your comfort zone.
Say hello anyway.
·
Attend inclusive events. Follow
disability advocates online.
·
Exposure dissolves discomfort.
6.
What if I say something and they can’t
hear me or understand me? Or what if they need help moving around and I don’t
know how to help? I’ll probably just make it harder.
What you can do:
·
Just ask: “Would you like any
assistance?”
·
Respect if they say no.
·
Learn simple communication
basics (e.g., how to guide, visual cues, clear speech).
7.
What if I say something stupid, or
they react in a way I don’t expect? I don’t want to embarrass myself , or make
them feel uncomfortable either.
What you can do:
·
A little vulnerability goes a
long way.
·
If you mess up, apologise and
move on.
·
People appreciate effort more
than perfection.
8.
Maybe they want to be left alone. If I
approach them, they might think I’m being nosy or treating them differently. I
don’t want to invade their space.
What you can do:
·
Assume inclusion, not
exclusion.
·
Ask: “Would you like to join
us?” or “Want to sit here?”
·
Let them decide, not your
assumptions.
9.
I support inclusion, but I genuinely
don’t know what to do.
What you can do:
·
Learn about accessible tools,
inclusive language, and adaptive practices.
·
Ask your workplace or school to
offer sensitisation training.
·
Even small acts , like holding
space in a circle or using a mic , matter.
10.
In my culture, we don’t really mix
much with people who have disabilities. I was always taught to be polite from a
distance, not to engage directly.
What you can do:
·
Reflect: are these habits
helping or hurting?
·
Respect isn’t silence , it’s
connection.
·
Rewrite the script you
inherited with kindness and courage.
5 Quick Tips for Everyday Inclusion
·
Start with person-first
thinking , see the individual, not the condition.
·
Don’t wait to be perfect , just
be present.
·
Avoid assumptions. Ask and
listen.
·
Make accessibility part of how
you host, invite, speak, and share.
·
Follow and learn from
disability advocates , their voices matter.
Final Thought
Every time you hesitate, ask yourself:
“Is this fear , or is it habit?”
Then challenge it.
Inclusion doesn’t require a grand gesture.
Sometimes, it starts with two simple words:
“Hi there.”
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